But do we really understand what love is? People have so many ideas. Let’s see what God has to say.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6
Think about what this verse says – patient, kind, not rude, and not easily angered. Are there any times during which we have a better chance of doing this – times when it feels more natural?
Of course, it’s when we’re around people that we like; when we’re with our friends. I was first able to grasp this concept while reading the book “Mere Christianity” by C.S. Lewis.
Remember, this type of love carries with it no emotional attachment. It’s purely based on decision and will. True love cannot be based on emotion, it must be my choice.
I find that it’s easiest for me to treat people I like in this way. Sometimes I choose to treat them correctly even if I don’t feel like it, simply because I like them. This brings us to the definition of love that I first heard from C.S. Lewis.
The way of love is to treat people as if you like them – whether you do or not. Also, I would add, whether you know them or not and whether you’re in their presence or not.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
I Corinthians 13:7
This is the atmosphere that should surround a ministry of excellence. When you’re ministering to people, all these aspects should be evident in your work. Too often, we’re guilty of loving our ministry more than the people we’re called to perfect. This verse tells us that we’re to always protect, trust in, hope for and persevere for THE PEOPLE.
The ministry is a good thing. But it’s still a thing. Things can never be more important than people. Excellence will never develop in an atmosphere where you love what you’re doing to the extent that you don’t care for the people.
You’re not their Lord, Jesus is. Your ministry is never more important than God’s plan for their individual lives. If you’re walking in excellence, in the way of love, you’ll be able to balance the two.
Love for people must start with your family. Too many Christians think that it’s noble to give up their family for “God’s work.”
I even heard a guest minister once prove how devoted he was to the ministry by saying that his children were not walking with the Lord. It was a sacrifice he had to make for the ministry. I never let him preach at our church again. God has never accepted child sacrifice. The Bible is clear that ministry begins at home.
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
It’s clear from the life of Christ (and we probably don’t want to hear it) that the way of love sees everyone as our friends. Jesus even laid down His life for those who were His sworn enemies.
If so, then He included the whole race of mankind into His list of “friends.” We cannot use this verse for an excuse not to love. Christ’s example stops us from doing this.
He laid down His life for the Pharisee and the Atheist, as well as the disciples. When you walk in the love of Christ, you exhibit the same evidence of love that He did.
Question: What is the evidence of the love that can be seen in your life and ministry?
© 2019 Nick Zaccardi
<Note – This post was an excerpt from my book, Breaking Free from the Pack – How to Develop a Spirit of Excellence available on Amazon>